Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart. (ESV)
The heart is the seat of our emotions and where ones true motivations reside. Those motivations are very often not clearly and objectively discerned by the bearer. I have found that it is wise to have trusted, experienced and spiritually mature counselors who can give me clear and objective feedback on critical issues arising in my life. Counsel performs the invaluable service of covering our blind spots, that is those areas in our hearts motivations that remain clouded or hidden from objective consideration. That wise and objective counsel has saved me much heartache over many years.